What is a treasure? We think in terms of gold, diamonds, silver, pearls, and so forth and one characteristic of those treasures is that they have a value which is not diminished by the passage of time.
A diamond is called a precious stone. Why is that? First of all, diamonds are the hardest material of all. Also, regardless of time and space, the characteristics of the diamond do not change. Furthermore, if you take a diamond stone anywhere, whether to England or Asia, it is always a diamond with the same value. Even if you take it into tropical weather or a very cold climate, its value won’t be affected. Therefore, unchangeability is one aspect of a precious stone.
This is beyond human capacity. Even though men have tried to duplicate the diamond in artificial ways, they have not been able to do so.
Think of gold. Why is it a precious metal? First of all, the rich color of gold never rusts but maintains itself forever. Time passes, places change, yet the same golden glow continues to shine. If we were to try to evaluate gold and diamonds, which would be the most precious? Since diamonds are actually compressed carbon, they cannot be burned. Likewise, you can melt gold in a very hot furnace, but when it cools down it is still the same element.
Have you ever thought about the currencies of the world’s nations and their standards for value? They always base their currencies on gold, not diamonds. Why is that? Gold cannot be damaged by fire, rust, or cold. It is truly unchanging, therefore nations agreed upon gold as their standard for currency.
What are the characteristics of a pearl? It is made up of shell and therefore it can be tarnished or dulled, but its essence will not be changed. The beauty of a pearl is that it harmonizes with everything; it has the “color” of harmony. Do men or women like pearls the most? For that matter, who likes treasures in general? It is women. Why is that? Women exhibit changeable qualities and therefore, they like to possess things which are unchanging. When a woman looks at a diamond, she can enjoy a give and take relationship with it. The diamond is very hard and you are soft; thus the contrast is stimulating.
You enjoy draping yourselves with golden necklaces because of their simple, rich, shining color. You feel that you want to shine in that way, too. Since pure gold is soft and is therefore adaptable, you can bend it and shape it but it will not break. If a woman has a basically sharp nature, she might look at pearls and say, “I want to be harmonizing like that. I must learn from the pearl.”
Sometimes I wonder when I look at a woman who wears lots of pearls and diamonds if she really deserves to wear such precious things. The true beauty and pride of a woman is her inner self and personality, not those external things. However, many women want to take pride in their earrings and necklaces. If you could ask a diamond, “What kind of woman would you like to be worn by?” it would answer, “I want to be on a woman who is absolutely pure.” For a woman to really deserve to wear a diamond, she must preserve absolute purity. Therefore, those women who go to one man and then another do not deserve to wear diamonds. The woman who devotes herself to one man day after day, regardless of the circumstances, is the one who is deserving.
Gold is genuine; it has absolutely no falseness. Inside and out, its quality is the same. Where is a woman like that? Only a woman such as that truly deserves to wear a gold ring. Is that a correct statement? It is so crucial that a woman achieve the quality of harmony. You must be able to harmonize with your surroundings, your neighbors, and so forth. When such a woman wears pearls, it is most becoming.
When the woman wearing precious jewels actually possesses the same qualities as those jewels, she will be pursued by men, not for the sake of her external treasures but for the sake of her personality itself. That is, the woman herself is the treasure. Would you like to have your husband attracted to your diamond ring? Certainly not. Would you like your husband to love you because you wear golden necklaces and wristwatches? Would you like your husband to love just one portion of you – your eyes, for example? No, you want a man to love your whole self and appreciate the harmony of all your parts.
If you were confident of possessing the qualities of jewels, you could sit quietly on a dark mountain top and shine, just as a diamond shines at night as well as by day. Within such a woman there is an everlasting quality which never becomes boring, just like gold which never loses its glow. The person who is harmonious like a pearl can embrace her environment and be a harmonizing factor for the universe. Would such a woman remain all alone on the mountain top? That woman has greater value than any diamonds she might be wearing. Suppose that woman were sitting on a rock of solid gold. Which would be the more precious – the woman or the golden rock? Even the birds flying in the air would like to stop and be near that kind of woman.
Many years ago, I visited Iran and saw a bank in which a large chunk of precious metal and diamond was on display. People lined up from very early in the morning to simply look at that treasure. I was amazed to see how eager people were to see just a stone. What about a woman with the shining quality of diamonds? If she were sitting somewhere, how much more would she attract the interest of people, particularly men? They would want to line up for many miles just to see her. Do you think the husband of such a woman would want to go away from her? Even if he had to leave, he would tend to turn around many times to get one more look at her. It would be hard to go to work! Her beauty and love would always pull him around.
When a person has something very precious, he doesn’t want to leave it but will circle around it, looking at it and appreciating it more and more. He can never get enough of it. To parents, their loving children are like a precious diamond. The parents will just circle around the children, never wanting to go away from them. When a woman has a beloved husband, she will not want to leave but will want to be around him all the time. Likewise, a man will want to be around his beloved wife. The most precious aspect of such a relationship is that it lasts for eternity, not just a brief time. That is the kind of situation where we can use the words “forever” and “unchanging.”
We can understand from this example that whenever there is a true subject of love, the object will not want to leave but will want to be there always, turning and circling around it.
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Reverend Sun Myung Moon
September 11, 1983